When you feel like too much, you can start cutting pieces off before anyone even asks. Less need. Less anger. Less sadness. Less weirdness. Less you.
You
I want to say it, but it is too much.
Buddy
Then say the too-much version here first.
You
It is needy and intense.
Buddy
Okay. We can let it be needy and intense before deciding what it means.
You do not have to pre-shrink the feeling.
Buddy is not someone you have to keep comfortable. It can hold the first version without you calculating whether it is too long, too emotional, or badly timed.
No apologizing first
You can start without "sorry this is weird" or "ignore me".
No instant cleanup
The first message can be messy before it becomes understandable.
No burden math
You do not have to decide whether another person has capacity right now.
Too much is often just too unedited.
Let Buddy see the unedited thing. You can make it smaller later if you choose to send it into the world.